My family and I are very blessed to attend a church with a very wise pastor. My pastor is younger than I - but wiser than a lot of older Christians I have known. He and his wife show a lot of love, knowledge and wisdom in their faith. It seems as though God has used this ministry to speak directly to me nearly every service. Whether it is encouraging or something that I need to hear in order to shape up my behavior and attitude... there is always something that speaks to me.
Yesterday, however, I tried to deny that my heart was being dealt with. I want to be angry. I want to be mad. I want to tell the whole world how someone has wronged me. Especially since I know that I've been lied about. I want to set the record straight.
"He that covereth a transgression seeketh love, but he that repeateth a matter separateth very friends."
I heard almost nothing that was said after this verse was read and then explained. Why should I cover the situation? Why should I hide it from others? Why should I not show the proof - point by point - how they have lied? I was on the receiving end of backstabbing, badmouthing, lies and quite frankly someone trying to steal from me. Don't I have the right to "out" this person?
We can list every reason under the sun why we should not show grace and mercy. Yet it wouldn't make it right to withhold it.
As difficult as it is for me. As much as it is something I have to fight moment by moment to keep myself from exposing the situation... Proverbs 17:9 is exactly the path I need to follow in this particular matter.
They need love. Their transgression is covered. I'm sure I'll fight the temptation to return to it and lift the lid. Showing them grace, mercy and love is better for them... and me.